A Woman's Voice

INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES AND ANECDOTES ~ Siloam Mission ~ December 7, 2011 by Gloria Korell

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE by doloresayotte on December 7, 2011
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My Sister’s Voice

In the past few months I had the privilege of volunteering at Siloam Mission with my daughter Meagan.  I experienced first hand what it was like to do “God’s work”.  Observing the volunteers, people of all races and ages, working in such harmony to provide for the patrons of Siloam gave me the impression the work was effortless.  The eagerness to prepare a meal and clean up afterwards with such smiling faces and cheery hearts delivered a strong message about the rewards of giving.  

My first visit to Siloam left me with a different opinion of the homeless.  I discovered that they could be one of us and we could be one of them and as my volunteer experience continued so did my connection with these people.  We so often take for granted our blessings in life. 

In weeks following, each time I visited Siloam the rewards became greater.  In a strange way I was becoming “addicted”.  I needed to feel the “high” from giving.  It felt like I was becoming needy myself.  I wanted to continually hand over that plate of food so I could hear the thank you or see a smile on someone’s face.  Yes, the significance of people needing one another.  My need was just as great as theirs. 

As a result, this experience has been one of the most rewarding in my life and I am grateful my daughter had the opportunity to open her heart and give to others less fortunate.  All our experiences in life help us to “connect the dots” on our journey.  For me, this experience not only opened my eyes, but also my heart and it made me realize that I too was being fed. 

Thank you Gloria.  What a wonderful “addiction” to have!



“Remember this–that very little is needed to make a happy life.”  (Marcus Aurelius)



INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES AND ANECDOTES ~ Regrets ~ June 28, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

How many of us live without regrets? No one…I am sure! How many of us repeat the same mistakes over and over again? If we don’t learn from our mistakes, this is exactly what we will do. Often times, I will ask myself the rhetorical question of why a certain situation arises over and over again. My daughter’s answer is that I didn’t learn my lesson the first time around.

When history repeats itself, even if the players are different, I try to remember my daughter’s words. When a situation keeps revisiting me, I have no choice but to acknowledge and accept that there is a life lesson in it for me. It’s up to me to figure out what it is and perhaps I will have fewer regrets and more learning power. Wisdom…

THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY ~ Two Wrongs ~ April 7, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte and Charles Betts

My Dad used to have one of the neatest sayings. It’s been nineteen years since he passed away. I still miss him and the impact he had on my life to this day. He was not a well-educated man nor was he perfect. I certainly remember thinking he was when I was a young child right up into my adult life. I had such an innocent love and high regard for him that I had him on a pretty high  pedestal. It took me well into my adult years to fully realize that my Dad was human just like the rest of us. I used to think he could do no wrong. I spent plenty of time listening to him and the stories he had to share.  He also had quite a few cute sayings.  One of them that has come to mind many times over the years is “two wrongs don’t make a right”.

I can’t count the number of times I heard him say this quote throughout my life.  When people hurt us, we have the tendency to want to hurt them right back. There seems to be a trait in our human nature that likes to get even. As I write this, there is something that happened to me to make me think of this adage. Not all people are kind and it’s very difficult to be kind to people who have shown unkindness to us.  Today is a day when I need to remind myself to be kind to unkind people. This is when I can hear my Dad say, “two wrongs don’t make a right”. To be unkind toward someone who has hurt me will never make things right and I will be no further ahead than the person who was initially unkind.  Yup…my Dad may not have been the best educated man nor was he perfect but just the same, he sure had plenty of wisdom.  

It’s neat how God works to get us the messages that we need to hear if we are in tune to His communication and open to this concept.  Before I went to bed I wrote this article and the next morning before I even had a chance to post it, I received this unexpected comment from Charles Betts. I guess we need to hear things more than once. At times, it is beneficial to listen to the messages outside of our own thoughts and prayers. It may give us the clarity and vision that we are seeking. God works through people and by being open to their ideas and voices of wisdom, we can also find answers to our prayers and the inner peace we are striving to attain. Perhaps you can also benefit from the wisdom of Charles’ words and my Dad’s as well.

Good morning Dolores. I think the word (sm-eyes…smiling with our eyes) and its concept are a beneficial principle to apply to our daily routines. The eyes are for sure a window to the soul. I have known some people in life who have, due to rough circumstances in life, drawn the shades over the windows and refuse to let people see in. From my perspective it appears they feel that if no-one sees in then they are safe. They feel that any intruders are there only to take things from their soul which they do not want to give away or share. Their world becomes smaller and tighter and they eventually dry up inside.

When my two daughters were in their formative years and would come home from school, having been hurt or disappointed by their friends, they would express a desire to have nothing to do with that friend. I would say : “If you continue to cut off your friends when they hurt you, eventually you will end up in a small circle by yourself”. I wanted them to learn that pain will come but we must overcome the pain with love and forgiveness. Love will never dry up as long as we let it flow. Only when we dam it up inside does it dry up.

To get back to the “sm-eyes”, yes we are benefitted when we learn to let our eyes express the beauty of our souls. If someone abuses that beauty then they have some issues in their own soul. They need our friendship and prayers. As does God deal with us, we can be blessed when we love because it is in us, not because someone deserves it. In this way we are in control of our own happiness, not those we deal with. So it is that we sm-eyes all those we contact. Both they and we are blessed. Have a great day, Charles Betts.

Thanks Charles for sharing your wisdom! I especially like the down to earth way that you tell stories to demonstrate your point and to help us better understand your message. 

“Growing Up And Liking It” ~ February 3, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE by doloresayotte on February 3, 2011
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“I find that men and women can view things in such different ways. They not only have different views, they have different ways of saying things. It reminds me of a book, which is based on the theory that women are from Venus and men are from Mars. Many times when my husband and I discuss as we walk, I see some of those differences. We were made in different ways for a reason. My husband says I have a tendency to flower things up when I have something to say. I consider this to be the eternal gardener in me who wants to spare everybody’s feelings. He has a tendency to cut to the quick and has been referred to as brutally honest when he was in the business world. When I search through my quips and quotes to emphasize what I am writing about, I can’t help but snicker to myself as I think of some of the unprintable ones that my husband has saved over the years. It’s a good thing that I’m writing this book. Between the two of us, I soften his edges and he hardens mine so that we can effectively deal with all that life has to offer. I need his strength, and he needs my softness. Our marriage, in most instances, consists of a healthy balance between the two.” 


“Growing Up and Liking It” (The Donut Holes) is the second in a series of books written by Dolores Ayotte. I truly enjoyed it, much like her first book, “I’m Not Perfect And It’s Okay” because it seemed to fill in the gaps.  “Growing Up And Liking It” takes you on an adventure filled with humorous quips and anecdotes about life’s experiences. The simple tips shared by Dolores help the readers to find meaning in their own lives in order to better cope with their own personal challenges. It is once again, a hand’s on recipe. The recommended tips help individuals to be the best they can be no matter the circumstances. Lorraine Gauthier~ B.A. (Psychology) Sun Life Advisor 

A most inspiring and enjoyable sequel to, “I’m Not Perfect And It’s Okay”.  Once again, the author enlightens the reader with her wisdom and natural ability to express and teach others from her own life experiences.  As a result, this book gives you insight on simple life strategies to a happier self.  I loved it!  Gloria Korell 

Dolores’s second book was as much joy to read as her first. It’s full of insight and wisdom.  I wrote her when I was done reading her manuscript and told Dolores how hard it was to put down “Growing Up and Liking It” (The Donut Holes) once I started to read it. It’s one book that totally had me hooked from start to finish.  Linda Briscoe 

Living happier and more fulfilling lives is ever more daunting in these stressful times when finding a balance between work, home, recreation and relationships often seems out of reach.  How refreshing it is then to read Dolores Ayotte’s latest book “Growing Up And Liking It” (The Donut Holes) and to discover simple, effective steps for finding a balanced approach to happier living. This wife, parent, grandmother, gardener, storyteller, teacher and author shares her wonderful philosophy for living a happy, rewarding life using her easy to follow “nuggets” of wisdom.  Her unique writing style borrows from the quips and quotations of many of the world’s wise and quotable persons passed down through the ages, which she blends with her own life experiences to guide the reader to better life coping skills. This is a book to be read as one would eat a box of “donut holes” from the local Donut and Coffee Shop, one bite at a time so as to savor the flavor and to digest the lessons taught from your favorite ones.  Gilbert Frontain~Director Human Resources (Retired)

To learn more please visit: TATE PUBLISHING

I would like to thank the four of you, not only for your endorsement of  my books, but for all the support you have shown me throughout my book writing endeavors.


“Growing Up And Liking It” –December 26, 2010 by Dolores Ayotte

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE by doloresayotte on December 26, 2010
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FOREWORD to “Growing Up & Liking It” by Andrea Cockerill

I have always known that my mother could give sound advice if the occasion arose.  I have gone to her often throughout my years at university, during my employment as a social worker and now in my years of mothering. Sometimes as children in the process of growing up, we can’t always see our mothers as women, as if the role of mother negates being a woman.  As I have gotten older, I have taken a step back and I have learned to look at my mother through the eyes of a woman looking at another woman. As an adult,  I see a woman who passionately cares about people, not just her own children but all people who may have or who are suffering. She knows suffering but she also knows the power of hope, knowledge and self-love. These are such simple concepts yet many times they are so hard to grasp in times of despair.

I have had my own times of despair, from a first-born being in the NICU to the heartbreak of some of the tougher times during the mothering of my own children. It is during those times that I have called my mother knowing I would receive the words of guidance that I so longed to hear. Her guidance is not complicated but rather straight forward and practical.  Her words, just the remedy needed in times when complications and stress seem to dominate our lives.  

My mother is educated but it is more through her own painful trials that she has learned life’s most valuable lessons. I feel that it is because of her compassionate heart, she writes this book full of wisdom and raw knowingness. She initially wrote her books so that her children and grandchildren could benefit from her life experience. Her goal was to spare them the suffering from falling as hard and as deep as she did during her most painful times. It is with this compassion, she shares her recipe for a more balanced life with her readers. 

My mother writes in much the same way she would talk to you if you came to her for advice. Her words are well thought out, gentle and nonjudgmental. You can feel this positive energy throughout the pages of her book. Two of the greatest gifts my mother has ever given me are, to believe in something bigger than myself, and to honor the beliefs of my neighbor. It is because of these wonderful gifts that I now see the world in color, instead of black and white. What joy it has been to live life with such an open heart. Although I am her daughter, I no longer negate the woman my mother is nor the woman my mother wants me to be.  In doing so my eyes are now wide open and able to see the gentle wisdom that was always there, right in front of me. I am ever so grateful that now, you too can share in my mother’s wisdom and grace. In doing so may your heart be open to the gifts her book has to offer. Enjoy!  

Andrea Cockerill – BA (Psychology), BSW

To learn more, please visit TATE PUBLISHING

Thank you Andrea for your inspiration, support and love! 

MIRACLES — October 16, 2010

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“For all his learning or sophistication, man instinctively reaches toward that force beyond…Only arrogance can deny its existence, and the denial falters in the face of evidence on every hand. In every tuft of grass, in every bird, in every opening bid, there it is.” (Hal Borland) 

“A miracle is nothing more or less than this. Anyone who comes into a knowledge of his true identity, of his oneness with the all-pervading wisdom and power, thus makes it possible for laws higher than the ordinary mind knows of to be revealed to him.”  (Ralph Waldo Trine)

“You don’t need an explanation for everything. Recognize that there are such things as miracles–events for which there are no ready explanations….” (Harry Browne)

WRITER’S GROUP — October 13, 2010 by Judith Lawrence

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE,INSPIRATIONAL POEMS ~ SPIRITUAL SATURDAY by doloresayotte on October 13, 2010
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I am very much a loner. I love my life of quiet solitude with all the opportunities it gives me to read, write, and pray whenever and wherever I desire. 

Each summer, however, I come out of hibernation and join with a small group of writers. These few months give me a chance to expand my writing abilities, writing on topics that normally wouldn’t be on my radar. 

I am a firm believer that if one is a writer one should be able to write on any theme that is given to one. Sometimes, this can be a challenge and, indeed, I am challenged by the varying topics that come my way when I am with my fellow writers. 

We are a group of five women and we take it in turns to lead the group and the leader makes the subject choice for the eight minutes stream of consciousness that we do during the meeting as well as the assignment for the at-home writing piece. 

Even though there are only five members we are an eclectic group—a retired teacher, a lawyer, a counsellor, an author of romantic novels, and myself, a retired R.N. This opens up all kinds of topic possibilities and gives some amazing results. 

For your interest, here is a haiku poem I wrote for my at-home assignment on the subject of radiance, along with a prose poem on Sophia. 


Red-leafed trees spread bright 

Branches on blue cloudless sky 

Sun’s arrows pierce through.   


SOPHIA (Greek name for Wisdom) 

Sophia dwells within me at my core; breath beats in my breast like a rhythmed drum.

Radiant, in my deepest place, Sophia gleams with steady light from the ancient day.

Down through the ages Sophia shines forth—Wisdom (Proverbs 8:30, 31) that is from Creation’s time dwells within me.

Fire waiting to be kindled glows in hot coals; Sophia breathes her breath upon them; flames flare within my soul; creation, like a phoenix, rises up with beating wings, drums new life into being, bursting forth upon the world.


© Judith Lawrence  

 Thank you Judith for sharing your creative talent with all of us!


ON THE WISDOM OF BIRDS – June 14 by Gil Frontain

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE,WORDS OF WISDOM ~ A MAN'S VOICE by doloresayotte on June 14, 2010
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A Wo-Man’s Voice

While playing golf last week my partners and I were alerted to the distress cries of a bird as we approached the tee box for the 6th hole. As we looked around we saw a small bird sitting on her nest at the base of the sign post on a bed of wood chips.

She was a Killdeer, a pretty bird with brown, beige, white and black colourings with two black “bibs” on her upper chest.

We were only a few feet from her nest and would  not have noticed her camouflaged position as her colours blended perfectly with the woodchips under her.

She put on a magnificent show of puffing up her feathers and flapping her wings as she sat up on the nest while screeching her calls for us to “get away”.

We all assured her that she was safe as we  moved away to the tee box. And we all remarked that she was not a very smart bird to have nested so close to a busy golfers path.

Later on as I walked the fairways I thought about that little bird and concluded that she was not so dumb after all; in fact she was rather clever.

She had nested close to a path frequented by humans which were not a threat to her safety and on the contrary would go out of their way to protect her.

At the same time her natural predators such as crows and magpies, cats, skunks and  fox which all love bird eggs, would not approach a place frequented by people.

And she had chosen a bed of woodchips which were the same color as her feathers and as her eggs. “Smart bird”, I concluded and reminded myself to not be so quick to judge the actions of animals and people in the future.

After the golf game I went back to photograph this wise little bird.

Sure enough, she was ready to lure me away from her precious nest and went into her classic “broken wing” act as she scurried off feigning a serious injury with an obvious broken wing while making her distress call.

She was very convincing as she distracted me away from the nest with her great performance. But I knew her caper and moved closer to the nest to photograph the eggs which were so well hidden in the nest. I then quickly left the scene so she could return to her eggs.

Again she made me reflect on how often we are distracted from our priorities in life by actions of others which are as effective as the “broken wing” act of the mother Killdeer bird. 

Oh…the wisdom of birds.

Thank you Gil, not only for the inspirational article, but for the beautiful pictures as well! Happy Father’s Day to you.

Gil is retired and lives with his wife Elsie in Calgary, Alberta.

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“Wisdom is meaningless until our own experience has given it meaning”  (Bergen Evans)


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