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MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Movies ~ April 25, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

Posted in MIRACLE MONDAY by doloresayotte on April 25, 2011
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To follow my tradition of discussing topics on the lighter note on Monday, here goes.  I love going to the movies. How about you? Actually the best part about going to the movies is going out with our friends. During the winter months, we usually go to a movie once a week. Afterwards, we go for supper together and oftentimes, we discuss the movie we have just seen.  This is a wonderful social event for us, but it’s so much more than that because we have the opportunity to discover more and more about each other by sharing our impressions of the movies we enjoy or the places we prefer to eat.

Recently, we went to see the movie “Limitless”, and although the ticket attendant said it was a good movie, we didn’t agree. The best part about that evening was going for Vietnamese food afterwards because the movie really didn’t score high points with any of us. On the other hand, the week before we went to see “Lincoln Lawyer” and we all thought it was wonderful. It held our attention throughout the whole two hours and we discussed it extensively. When I walked with my friends the next morning, we continued to discuss it even more.  The acting was excellent as well as the plot. The story was not only suspenseful, but unpredictable as well. 

Sometimes I see a movie and I can’t say it was bad, nor can I say it was good. Other times, I see a movie that I feel I can comfortably recommend for others to see. “Limitless” falls into the first category, and “Lincoln Lawyer” falls into the latter. If you haven’t seen this movie, it’s well worth seeing.  If you’ve seen either of these movies, it would be great to know what you think.


Thoughtful Thursday ~ Dysfunctional Mother/Daughter Relationships — January 13, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

Over the Christmas Season, I had the opportunity to enjoy a few movies.  For several days, both my husband and I were struggling with the flu and colds. It was a great opportunity to find some enjoyment during the recuperating period by watching movies on TV.  My husband went to bed earlier than usual one evening because he was feeling so under the weather. While I was channel hopping I came upon a movie that was already in progress. It was a simple, little movie that would appeal to all age groups but probably more to children than adults.

It was the story about two mothers who were extremely different.  One was a teacher and she was very concerned about the education of her teenage daughter. Her main desire was to see her daughter excel academically and to get accepted into Harvard.  The other mother was an ice skating coach. She, on the other hand, wanted her daughter to excel at ice skating and perhaps qualify for the Olympics.  As you have probably already guessed, it was as if each of these mothers had given birth to the wrong daughter. The daughter with the academic mother was a gifted skater and it was her dream to be an Olympic champion. The daughter of the ice skating coach wasn’t at all interested in following in her mother’s footsteps. She wanted to excel academically.

Both mothers refused to look at what their daughters aspired to be and only looked at what they wanted for their daughters.  They both thought that they knew best and were extremely adamant about it. The academic mother went so far as to refuse to even go watch her daughter skate. She was totally unaware of how gifted her daughter was in this area.  She was very closed-minded. In essence, both these mothers were living vicariously through their daughters. They actually wanted their daughters to succeed where they had failed. They were both so controlling in trying to accomplish their own end goals.  How many of us are just like that?  We have our own agenda and we look at what we want without giving any thought to what anyone else wants.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be in a dysfunctional mother/daughter relationship.  This  lack of communication and unattractive power struggle can be found in any relationship.  Are we really looking at the people in our lives from their point of view?  This is no easy task.  What do you think?  Do you feel that you must suppress whom you really are in order to stay in a relationship or do you feel the need to be in charge because you are insecure or threatened by those around you?  Balance…equality…mutual respect.  These may appear to be lofty goals but with honesty, desire and hard work, they are definitely attainable and well worth the effort.



“You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant aspiration.” (James Allen)

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