A Woman's Voice

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Leadership ~ June 6, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

I have a dear friend in my life that I have known since I was six years old.  We started off in first grade together.  This particular friend is a born leader.  Ever since I can remember when it came to electing class presidents, she was the one chosen.  She has incredible leadership skills and organizational qualities.  This friend has held several jobs and each and every one of them has always been in management.  If she doesn’t start off with the position, she inevitably ends up with it.  If there is any one who knows how to get a job done it is her. I have so much respect for her.

Not all people are so lucky that their personalities are so distinctive or apparent.  Usually, true followers can be as easily identified as true leaders. At times, however, being seen as a follower doesn’t necessarily endear you to others or even to yourself. Take charge people don’t always understand those that need to be given direction and encouragement along the way.  When we don’t address our personality type, we don’t always understand why people could possibly become aggravated when we don’t do things their way.

I know that there is a grey zone when it comes to these two very different personalities. Nothing is ever that cut and dry in life. I can very much say that I have traits that fall into both zones. You may very well be the same.  By having a real honest evaluation of which category we fall into, we can learn to better handle some of the changes we might want to make in our lives.  Thus we can become more responsible and accountable for our own happiness.  “In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for ‘finding himself’.  If he insists in shifting his  responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.” (Thomas Merton)

As previously stated, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either personality.  It all boils down to self acceptance and mutual respect for each other.  We aren’t all made from the same mold.  Life would be very boring if we were, so the ultimate goal is to learn to appreciate ourselves for whom we are, and to change the things about ourselves that are changeable.  It is extremely difficult to alter an innate part of our basic being.  We can’t expect others to do things our way either.

We need all types of personalities to effectively make this world of ours go around.  If you are a
follower, the key is to follow the right people.  If you are a leader, the key is to lead, not boss, people in an admirable direction. If you fall somewhere in between, use your God-given talents in both areas as wisely as possible.   The best way to deal with all personality types is to realize, who we are, what we have to offer and to work toward achieving a common goal for the greater good.  We can all achieve our goals if we learn to better work together.   “There is no higher service than human service.  To work for the common good is the greatest creed.”(Albert Schweitzer)

Excerpt from my third manuscript ~ Up The “Down” Ladder

Thanks Joan for being an inspiration to me and for being such a good friend!

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MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Standing On Your Tiptoes ~ May 30, 2011

Only as high as I reach can I grow,

Only as far as I can seek can I go,

Only as deep as I can look can I see,

Only as much as I dream can I be.

Some things are just worth repeating…this is one of them. There comes a time in life when we must learn to reach out in order to accomplish our dreams. There may be a niggling inside us that is yet to be fulfilled. It doesn’t matter our age nor our stage of life…what matters is the desire to be all that we can be.  The sky’s the limit. It’s never to late to go for it!

“Surely there is grandeur in knowing that in the realm of thought, at least, you are without a chain; that you have the right to explore all heights; that they are no walls nor fences, nor prohibited places, nor sacred corners in all the vast expanse of thought…”(Robert G. Ingersoll)

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MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Forever And For Always ~ May 16, 2011 by Andrea Cockerill


As I stretch towards the center of you,

in silence I find the space that exists between the mind and the heart,

and I am reminded that there is nothing to fear.

Nothing can separate me from this place of comfort.

But in order to reach it,

I must pass through a moment that lies just between letting go

and the moment I grab hold of you.

It is my faith that bridges this divide.

When I reach you it becomes clear.

All I was every meant to do, forever and for always, was to love myself.

All I was every meant to do, forever and for always, was to love you.


I’m pleased to say that this poem was composed by my daughter Andrea. Thank you Andrea for sharing your talent with my readers.


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MIRACLE MONDAY ~ “LAFF” ~ MAY 2, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

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In two of my previous posts I mentioned my great pleasure in the solving of all kinds of puzzles. I also stated that one of my favorite expressions is Live…Laugh…Love. When I found this quote, it made me think about both of these earlier posts. Instead of repeating what I wrote, perhaps you would like to take a moment to read them.  Please click on  “LAFF” or  “Psst…Hey EWE” and you’ll know exactly what I mean.

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Movies ~ April 25, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

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To follow my tradition of discussing topics on the lighter note on Monday, here goes.  I love going to the movies. How about you? Actually the best part about going to the movies is going out with our friends. During the winter months, we usually go to a movie once a week. Afterwards, we go for supper together and oftentimes, we discuss the movie we have just seen.  This is a wonderful social event for us, but it’s so much more than that because we have the opportunity to discover more and more about each other by sharing our impressions of the movies we enjoy or the places we prefer to eat.

Recently, we went to see the movie “Limitless”, and although the ticket attendant said it was a good movie, we didn’t agree. The best part about that evening was going for Vietnamese food afterwards because the movie really didn’t score high points with any of us. On the other hand, the week before we went to see “Lincoln Lawyer” and we all thought it was wonderful. It held our attention throughout the whole two hours and we discussed it extensively. When I walked with my friends the next morning, we continued to discuss it even more.  The acting was excellent as well as the plot. The story was not only suspenseful, but unpredictable as well. 

Sometimes I see a movie and I can’t say it was bad, nor can I say it was good. Other times, I see a movie that I feel I can comfortably recommend for others to see. “Limitless” falls into the first category, and “Lincoln Lawyer” falls into the latter. If you haven’t seen this movie, it’s well worth seeing.  If you’ve seen either of these movies, it would be great to know what you think.

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ A New Word To Make You Smile ~ April 4, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

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I heard a new word the other day on TV for the very first time. I honestly don’t think it’s a real word or that you could find it in any dictionary but I really like the sound of it. The word is “smize” .  Actually it is probably spelled “sm-eyes”.  Have you ever heard this word? Do you know what it means? Before I tell you what this TV host said it means, I want to ask you another question.

Have you ever heard the expression that the “eyes are the window to the soul” ? I love this saying because when I look into people’s eyes, I see their spirit. Sometimes, I see kindness, joy, sadness, anger and so on. I think the eyes really do give away our innermost feelings if we let them. The expression in our eyes can really make us feel quite vulnerable. I think our eyes are our most precious feature. In fact, I think they are the most important feature we have and the one I certainly like the most.

Okay, so now back to the meaning of this so-called new word.  I kind of gave you a clue to its meaning when I clarified the spelling.  “Sm-eyes”  means to “smile with your eyes”.  I like the meaning of this new word.  To me, when our whole face lights up when we smile, is what  true “sm-eyesing ” is probably all about . What do you think?  Have you ever smiled as you look into a mirror?  Hey, give it a try. You’ve got nothing to lose. Have a good look and see what other people see when you smile at them. I’d be honored if you let me know if you “sm-eyes”.

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ MOON DANCE (a novel) ~ Book Review ~ March 28, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

Title: Moon Dance  ~ a novel (321 pages)

Author: Susan Earl

Publisher: Tate Publishing & Enterprises 

I thoroughly enjoyed reading the novel, Moon Dance, by Author Susan Earl.  It is very easy to discern that Susan is passionate about her relationship with God as she so skillfully intertwines her own values in her novel about Maggie and Joe.

The story takes place in Texas during the Great Depression yet despite the poverty and hardship that so many people endured; Maggie and Joe manage to find love and romance. Although, the main plot of Moon Dance revolves around the love they share, there are many other delightful characters that enhance the story line. There is much sadness and sorrow that is also addressed in this well-written, descriptive novel, but the faith of the family and the love that they all share manages to bring it to a happy conclusion. This book grabbed my attention right from the onset and I enjoyed it immensely.

Susan K. Earl grew up in a small town deep in the heart of East Texas. Her writing often reflects her roots, where good-hearted folks left a lasting impression on her life.

She has been blessed with a large, loving family, has been an educator for twenty-five years, and lives in Central Texas with her husband, her cat, and her dog.

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ THE COUPON QUEENS ~ March 21, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

It seems so much easier to admit some of our silly, little habits when we find people who operate the same way. My mom was one of the biggest coupon people I know. She loved cutting out coupons and taking them to the store to redeem them for cash. The stores weren’t nearly so sticky all those years ago and they would dole out cash for your coupons whether you bought the product or not. My mom loved this little practice because money was tight in those days and this coupon money ended up being her extra cash to spend the way she saw fit.

I’m a coupon clipper. There’s no getting around this fact. The other day when I went to the local pharmacy with my wallet full of coupons, I got a bunch of excellent deals. When I jumped in the car and looked in the mirror, I realized I had become my mother. Oh my, I could hardly believe it.  I not only look like her, I’m now doing the same darn thing. The scary part about it is that the realization crept up on me in such an unexpected  way that it brought a smile to my face. 

I don’t really need to engage in this habit. I’m not in the same position my mom was all those years ago, so why do I do it? I’ll tell you why! I have a group of friends that I socialize with and guess what?  We all do the exact same thing. It’s actually hilarious. It’s a wonderful game that we all seem to enjoy. We go shopping and to restaurants with our handy coupons. Buy one meal, get one free has been the deciding factor in many of the restaurants we frequent. There is even a half-price day at the local movie theater.  Our husbands have started to be as hooked as we are and they are cooperating to the fullest extent.  Usually you can only purchase one item per coupon, so the “guys” sometimes join us so that they can use a coupon too. You know how much these men like to go shopping but yet somehow or other we get them to come along with us so we can benefit from two coupons instead of just one. 

As I’m writing this and trying to describe this habit of ours, it makes me want to burst out laughing. Here we are…all excelling in the art of being thrifty. We are so proud of our bargains. When we’re gone and leave our children their inheritance, if there’s any to be had, I’m sure they’ll spend it faster than you can “shake a stick” and probably without a moment’s hesitation. We’ve had a blast saving our money. Hopefully, our children will have as big a blast spending it!  What do you think? 

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ LIFE’S JOURNEY ~ March 14, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

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Many years ago I decided to take responsibility for the unhappiness in my life and I made several life style changes. One of the biggest and best decisions I ever made was to get on a more regular exercise routine. Although I was fairly young, I never really had much time to dwell on myself  because I was busy raising my family and working outside the home as well.

In order to get my life back on track, I decided to start walking on a regular basis. I started off small by walking in between my bus stop connections on my way home from work instead of merely standing at the bus stop to wait for the next bus. After I built up my stamina and my desire to walk, I would not catch the first bus that came along opting to walk a little further each day.

Walking brought so much pleasure to my life that I proceeded to increase my distance so that eventually I was able to walk home on some days. (6 miles) I started this program over twenty-five years ago. I don’t think I could even do the math to figure out how many miles I have walked or the unbelievable benefit I have received from this simple decision. I have met several people along the way and enjoyed the company of many other walkers. I still walk three miles every week day and continue to enjoy all the friendships  I have made in this special way.  

At times, it is very difficult to make time for ourselves with the very busy schedules that we all have.  However, when we take time for ourselves, in the end everyone benefits. Walking is so simple yet so beneficial. Taking the first step, may very well give you such positive results that you will want to take many more steps.

Regular exercise of any kind is definitely a good habit and has many other positive side effects. Exercise is very therapeutic in dealing with and managing stress.

Miracle Monday –January 3, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

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It’s a new dawn…it’s a new day… it’s a New Year! 

January 3rd is the first Monday of 2011 when I am about to launch a new theme on “A Wo-Man’s Voice”.  One of the very first blogs I wrote was titled Blue Monday in March 2010.  Today after all these months, I would like to introduce Miracle Monday as one of my regular themes.  I have been inspired by two of my dear friends, Nikki Rosen and Desiray Lewis to add this special touch to my blog. Nikki posts Thankful Thursday and Spiritual Sunday which she features weekly on her blog. Desiray has a regular theme every day of the week.

The topics on Miracle Monday will be varied but they will mostly dwell on what I have to be grateful for and what I consider to be “the positives” at this stage of my life. I have every desire to begin the New Year on a positive note and this is my first post in 2011 to go along with this theme.  I realize many people start off with a list of resolutions and what they would like to change about themselves.  I thought I would be different by stating that I like my life in most instances and there are so many things that I hope and pray don’t change.

I have been married to my high school sweetheart for over 41 years. Every night when I pray before I fall asleep, I thank God for this wondrous gift. If you’ve read any of my posts in the category FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE (please check out the sidebar), you can see that my husband isn’t perfect. Hey…but then, neither am I.  However, the very first thing I am grateful for in 2011, is our long time marriage and the love and loyalty we share despite the ups and downs of any life long commitment. We have experienced financial hardship, job loss, ill physical and emotional health, and other typical marriage woes.  Over the years, we have learned the true meaning of our marriage vows. I have discovered that I married my best friend who has stuck by my side through “thick and thin”.  Figuratively speaking, because my husband is not the most demonstrative type of guy, we’ve held each other’s hand as we worked through these trials and tribulations. No one ever said that it was going to be easy but it’s been well worth it.

Many years ago when we were in our late teens, my husband’s brother tried to influence us not to get married so young.  He was eight years older and he was offering his younger brother what he thought was some sage advice.  Needless to say, we never took it but I recall a humorous moment in the first few years of our marriage when my husband showed a little “sass”.  He mentioned to his brother that if he had known marriage was going to be this great, he would have gotten married sooner!  So yes…I do have every reason to be grateful, don’t you think?  And what about you?  Are there things in your life that you are grateful for or don’t want to change? I would love to hear from you. If you leave a comment, you can count on a reply from me. All you need to do is check back after your comment for my reply.

In my life and hopefully yours too, there’s no time for Blue Monday.  Instead, here’s wishing you Blue Skies every Monday and all week-long…

Blue Skies is an expression my friend Steven uses when closing off in his communication with me. It makes my day!

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