A Woman's Voice

The Human and Humane Self-Help Author ~ Dolores Ayotte



“The battle of life is, in most cases, fought uphill; and to win without a struggle were perhaps to win it without honour.  If there were no difficulties there would be no success; if there were nothing to struggle for, there would be nothing to be achieved.”  (Samuel Smiles)


My books are written in a gentle, conversational style, meant to reach my readers in a kind and non-judgmental way.

Both books, are self-help books about the steps I used to help me overcome two serious bouts with depression that I experienced in my earlier years. They are written in recipe format giving thirteen simple steps in each book that are easy to incorporate into daily living. In order to get out of the pit I found myself to be in, I had to do much soul-searching and reflection to get to the source of my depression.

My books are what I consider to be heart books.  They are written from my heart to any and all hearts that are open to my message. They are also written with the intention of reaching out to help people by sharing some of my personal experiences. Others may be able to identify with some of my stories and anecdotes.

Hopefully, my suggestions will enhance the lives of my readers in much the same way they have enhanced mine.

Through my faith,  eventual self-acceptance, and with the support of my husband, I was not only able to rise above my despair, I learned how to lead a full and rewarding life with my husband, children and now several grandchildren

My recipe for life consists of a little bit of this and a little bit of that borne from my life experiences. Usually, when I use all of the ingredients and steps…I end up with a pretty good product. Sometimes…I can still fail. It is this failure to succeed all of the time that helps remind of my humanity and the fact that I am not perfect and it’s okay.

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FOR THE LOVE OF PETS(Part 1) — May 17, 2010 by Lorraine Gauthier

Posted in A WOMAN'S VOICE by doloresayotte on May 17, 2010
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It’s very hard to explain why we humans get so attached to our furry friends. Is it their unconditional love, the comfort they provide or the fact they never complain? They are true friends thru and thru. We love them so much and the pain of losing them is always so difficult to handle. Our human minds cannot really explain this bond. 

This is my story…….it spans 50 years, many loves and many losses…..

When I was about 5 years old I happen to come across a dead cat on the road. I could not understand why it was just laying there and would not move. After talking to it and petting it, I finally understood that this animal was not alive. He was dead. I started to cry and lay beside it to give it comfort. I did not even know this animal yet its death was very disturbing to me and my heart ached. To this day I have no idea why it had this kind of impact. 

My love for animals continued over the years, especially for cats. At about the age of 14 a stray cat happened to enter our yard. He was a cute little grey kitten. I decided to hide him in my bedroom. I got milk and whatever food I could find. I was very hopeful that we could keep him. Morning came and the secret was out. My parents did not want this cat to stay. After pleading and insisting they gave in. How quickly Minieux became the family pet and everyone grew to love him. 

Many years later when I left home my parents and siblings continued to care for him like a family member. When he died it was very hard on everyone including me who lived away from home. Although he had been a stray it was like a death in the family and everyone felt this loss. 

On my 22nd birthday I received 2 precious gifts…… TWO kittens!! They were just adorable. Missy was a white Persian and Bandit a seal point Himalayan. This was my first experience with purebreds. They were just adorable and quickly they became my family while I lived in Toronto. I worked fulltime and had a long commute but I knew when I got home they would greet me. 

That was always the case until they were about 4 years old. Bandit started to change….. He seemed quieter and drank water frequently. We had him checked and our worst fear came true, he had an incurable and contagious disease called FIP. We had no choice but to put him down plus we had to be concerned for Missy’s health. Our hearts broke. For 3 months we watched Missy closely!!  To our amazement she did not get sick. After 3 months the Vet said we could get another kitten so here comes Smokey!! He was a bundle of joy!!! A little tiny thing with a big sister he was afraid of. After sniffing thru the door for a few days they finally accepted each other. They eventually became very good friends and I was so grateful to have my perfect family again. 

As with life, things change over time. In 1990 Missy was very sick and had to be put down.  My heart broke again. I was on my own now and just had Smokey!! He was my friend and gave so much to me! Smokey was always there to cheer me up and give me comfort. For the next 6 years Smokey was like my confidant. He had the bluest of eyes and the meekest of personalities. He was a gentle soul.

In 1996 Smokey got chronic renal failure and he had to be put down. I tried everything to keep him alive but his time had come. I will never forget that day…. I had to say goodbye to such a dear friend. The next few days were so very hard coming home and having no one to greet me. I could not stand it……well guess what? 

Thanks Lorraine….Please stay tuned!  Part 2 to be continued on Thursday, May 20th. 

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“Where there is love there is life…”  (Mohandas Gandhi)


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