A Woman's Voice

MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Leadership ~ June 6, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

I have a dear friend in my life that I have known since I was six years old.  We started off in first grade together.  This particular friend is a born leader.  Ever since I can remember when it came to electing class presidents, she was the one chosen.  She has incredible leadership skills and organizational qualities.  This friend has held several jobs and each and every one of them has always been in management.  If she doesn’t start off with the position, she inevitably ends up with it.  If there is any one who knows how to get a job done it is her. I have so much respect for her.

Not all people are so lucky that their personalities are so distinctive or apparent.  Usually, true followers can be as easily identified as true leaders. At times, however, being seen as a follower doesn’t necessarily endear you to others or even to yourself. Take charge people don’t always understand those that need to be given direction and encouragement along the way.  When we don’t address our personality type, we don’t always understand why people could possibly become aggravated when we don’t do things their way.

I know that there is a grey zone when it comes to these two very different personalities. Nothing is ever that cut and dry in life. I can very much say that I have traits that fall into both zones. You may very well be the same.  By having a real honest evaluation of which category we fall into, we can learn to better handle some of the changes we might want to make in our lives.  Thus we can become more responsible and accountable for our own happiness.  “In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for ‘finding himself’.  If he insists in shifting his  responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.” (Thomas Merton)

As previously stated, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either personality.  It all boils down to self acceptance and mutual respect for each other.  We aren’t all made from the same mold.  Life would be very boring if we were, so the ultimate goal is to learn to appreciate ourselves for whom we are, and to change the things about ourselves that are changeable.  It is extremely difficult to alter an innate part of our basic being.  We can’t expect others to do things our way either.

We need all types of personalities to effectively make this world of ours go around.  If you are a
follower, the key is to follow the right people.  If you are a leader, the key is to lead, not boss, people in an admirable direction. If you fall somewhere in between, use your God-given talents in both areas as wisely as possible.   The best way to deal with all personality types is to realize, who we are, what we have to offer and to work toward achieving a common goal for the greater good.  We can all achieve our goals if we learn to better work together.   “There is no higher service than human service.  To work for the common good is the greatest creed.”(Albert Schweitzer)

Excerpt from my third manuscript ~ Up The “Down” Ladder

Thanks Joan for being an inspiration to me and for being such a good friend!

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