A Woman's Voice

A MAN’S VOICE ~ WORDS OF WISDOM ~ June 7, 2011 by Charles Betts


Dolores; Good Tues. A.M. to you and your readers. I must say I look forward to checking out your blogs each day I come back to work. The one from Mon. was interesting again.

Leadership is indeed quite a thing in this life. With leadership comes a tremendous responsibility. It takes me to the scripture that says” Make straight paths for your feet so those who follow will not go astray” [ my paraphrase]. To me, those who lead just because they are willing to take charge, sometimes lack the necessary ingredient of good and true leadership. That being the ability to recognize that some of those whom they lead need assistance along the way. Being a take-charge kind of person sometimes means we lose patience with those who are not in the same mold as we. Good people and much talent and potential is lost along the way.

When I was a very young man learning carpentry skills I was blessed to have worked with two kindly older gentlemen. They had great skills and were so patient and gentle as they brought me along the path of development. I remember particularly an incident that at the time stood out as phenomenal to me. One of these men and I were working on cabinets and he was at that time recognized as an exceptional cabinet-maker. Another gentleman came by the house and proceeded to explain to my mentor the proper procedure for what we were doing. My mentor listened so patiently until the man was done and had left and then we carried on doing it the way he knew was right. I was just so impressed because, being young at the time, my response would have been to tell this man that he didn’t know what he was talking about and that I knew right well how to do my job. It taught me a life lesson that has stuck with me ever since and I have learned to put this same principle into daily practice.

Another thing about leadership is that we must recognize our indebtedness to those who follow. Without them there would be no need for leadership and we would soon be without our jobs. We need them as much as they need us. As you mentioned, it takes all different personalities to make the world go around.

In regards to “finding oneself”, as Christ mentioned, those who would find themselves must first lose themselves in Him. Until this happens we all struggle with being someone we don’t want to be, and not being someone we wish we were. I think one reason we are so impatient many times with others is because we are impatient with our own shortcomings. When we have learned to deal with ourselves we are then prepared to deal effectively with others. Whether we are leaders or followers.

Once again, thanks for the article and allowing me to share a point of view. I recognize well that when it is all said and done, this is only my point of view.

Have a great day and God Bless, Charles Betts

Charles…I very much appreciate you stopping by and adding your “words of wisdom” to my articles. I agree wholeheartedly with you that it is necessary to lose ourselves in Christ in order to truly find ourselves. It takes much faith and great courage to do this but in the end it is well worth it.  Christ never leaves us nor will He let us down.


MIRACLE MONDAY ~ Leadership ~ June 6, 2011 by Dolores Ayotte

I have a dear friend in my life that I have known since I was six years old.  We started off in first grade together.  This particular friend is a born leader.  Ever since I can remember when it came to electing class presidents, she was the one chosen.  She has incredible leadership skills and organizational qualities.  This friend has held several jobs and each and every one of them has always been in management.  If she doesn’t start off with the position, she inevitably ends up with it.  If there is any one who knows how to get a job done it is her. I have so much respect for her.

Not all people are so lucky that their personalities are so distinctive or apparent.  Usually, true followers can be as easily identified as true leaders. At times, however, being seen as a follower doesn’t necessarily endear you to others or even to yourself. Take charge people don’t always understand those that need to be given direction and encouragement along the way.  When we don’t address our personality type, we don’t always understand why people could possibly become aggravated when we don’t do things their way.

I know that there is a grey zone when it comes to these two very different personalities. Nothing is ever that cut and dry in life. I can very much say that I have traits that fall into both zones. You may very well be the same.  By having a real honest evaluation of which category we fall into, we can learn to better handle some of the changes we might want to make in our lives.  Thus we can become more responsible and accountable for our own happiness.  “In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for ‘finding himself’.  If he insists in shifting his  responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.” (Thomas Merton)

As previously stated, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either personality.  It all boils down to self acceptance and mutual respect for each other.  We aren’t all made from the same mold.  Life would be very boring if we were, so the ultimate goal is to learn to appreciate ourselves for whom we are, and to change the things about ourselves that are changeable.  It is extremely difficult to alter an innate part of our basic being.  We can’t expect others to do things our way either.

We need all types of personalities to effectively make this world of ours go around.  If you are a
follower, the key is to follow the right people.  If you are a leader, the key is to lead, not boss, people in an admirable direction. If you fall somewhere in between, use your God-given talents in both areas as wisely as possible.   The best way to deal with all personality types is to realize, who we are, what we have to offer and to work toward achieving a common goal for the greater good.  We can all achieve our goals if we learn to better work together.   “There is no higher service than human service.  To work for the common good is the greatest creed.”(Albert Schweitzer)

Excerpt from my third manuscript ~ Up The “Down” Ladder

Thanks Joan for being an inspiration to me and for being such a good friend!

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